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G.
10.04.2007
3.25.2007
Humph... well.. of course this had to happen.. of course.
The Boy missed his flight.
So no consult on Friday.
Lucky for us they aren't charging us for a last minute cancellation and we've rescheduled for two weeks from Friday when we'll all be in town.
That should also be around the time that TheP will start her challenge.
The Boy missed his flight.
So no consult on Friday.
Lucky for us they aren't charging us for a last minute cancellation and we've rescheduled for two weeks from Friday when we'll all be in town.
That should also be around the time that TheP will start her challenge.
3.21.2007
waiting and waiting and waiting and waiting
I can’t take my mind off of it. I feel like I’m going insane. It’s not often that I wish The Partner’s period to come, but I am. I can’t wait for CD1 so that we can get to CD3 for our first blood test in order to begin the Challenge. I’m anxious to know if we have a good chance to conceive.
I worry too much.
The P. is taking it all in stride, if she can’t then she can’t and we’ll move on to me. However, if it’s me, chances are it won’t be biologically related to her. And whether I like it or not, that disappoints me and worries me since the Little One is related to her. I worry about disparity of treatment from her other family members.
One thing I won’t have to wait for is, the consult. We will be doing that on Friday. I have no idea what to expect, but we will be there first thing in the AM and then we’ll come back after picking The Boy up at the airport for his portion of the consult. We’ll see.
We’re still going ahead with the plan and just waiting for someone to bite. The house we have our eye now is still on the market with a brand new price reduction. Hopefully no one bites for that one and we will be able to write a contract on that by the end of the month. Let’s hope.
I worry too much.
The P. is taking it all in stride, if she can’t then she can’t and we’ll move on to me. However, if it’s me, chances are it won’t be biologically related to her. And whether I like it or not, that disappoints me and worries me since the Little One is related to her. I worry about disparity of treatment from her other family members.
One thing I won’t have to wait for is, the consult. We will be doing that on Friday. I have no idea what to expect, but we will be there first thing in the AM and then we’ll come back after picking The Boy up at the airport for his portion of the consult. We’ll see.
We’re still going ahead with the plan and just waiting for someone to bite. The house we have our eye now is still on the market with a brand new price reduction. Hopefully no one bites for that one and we will be able to write a contract on that by the end of the month. Let’s hope.
3.16.2007
THe Challenge...
A clomid challenge that is.
We went to our first face to face consult with the doctor yesterday. It went really well, we both had very good first impressions. The office staff was very nice to us and you could tell that they have dealt with many many lesbian couples. Although... one nurse seemed just a tad slow when we mentioned that the type of relationship dynamic that we'll be creating with The Boy isn't new to us.
Anyway, we got there about an hour early which was good, because by the time we finished filling out all the paperwork we had about 5 minutes until it was time for our appointment. It felt like a really welcoming place from the beginning.
After all the paperwork was done they brought us into the back area to first get H's vitals and then take us to the consult room. We had a nice conversation with the nurse or technician (not sure) about Dansko shoes. We were all in agreement that they ROCK!
We sat in the consult room for a while. H read an article about the top schools in the state and I was an awe of Martha Stewart. I had never picked up her magazine or really paid too much attention to her before... but wow.. she had some very neat ideas. Just as I was getting into how to make a no-sew throw er whatever the student doctor came in to go over the paperwork before our actual doc came to talk to us about the actual process.
Our doctor is a fast talker and he reminded H of the east coast. Even though he is a fast talker he seems pretty patient and ready to hear what you have to say. We both like him a lot. His big concern was H's age. He wasn't as concerned with the "pre-diabetic" statement that her NPA told her back in December although he'd like to see that paperwork and possibly do more tests.
So all in all our appointment-- not including the pre-paperwork part was about 2 hours long. We talked with Dr FastTalker for a while and he told us about his protocol. The first thing he wants to do is the Clomid Challenge. He said that H's cycles are pretty regular which was good and was glad to hear that she gets two days of Peak with the OPK. At this point he doesn't want to do an HSG. His standard is to do 3 cycles unmedicated and then either do the HSG and or Clomid.
He talked to us about being able to get a lot of the blood work done with our PCP first and then primarily using them for the insems. He said that way more would be covered by our regular insurance and not use up our fertility deductible.
He also talked to us about the donor situation. He didn't give us any new news. We knew that we had to do the psych consult, testing, and quarantine and that we can have that all done at their lab with no problem. I asked him if they worked with CCB and he hesitantly said they do but they don't like to because their standards aren't as high as some others. So that didn't give me warm fuzzies, considering we were going to set The Boy up to do his donation there. He did recommend some other banks to use including FF since The Boy lives in Virginia. We'll see which will be easier for him to do.. I don't think it will be FF which is about 4 hours away from him. We'll probably stick to the plan of flying him out here.
After we met with Dr FastTalker we met with Nurse DG (doom and gloom) who talked to us about price and informed us that since The Boy has a long term g/f that she would need to be involved in the psych consult. That was news to us and a little irritating. Although we can both see the point of it. Thankfully she didn't say The Boy's ex and the mother of his seven year old needed to be involved. So now not only do we have to coordinate a time for him to fly here and do the consult, but we also have to figure out a time that she can come or call in. What a pain in the ass.
We made an appointment with one of the psychologists to get the psych consult out of the way on the day The Boy is set to fly in. Unfortunately he gets in 45minutes too late. We're going to call the office on Monday though to see if they can make an exception and do a later time that day. If they can't we'll either have to wait until May since he won't have time when he's here at the end of the month to do any daytime appointments this trip or fly him out sometime in between then.
All this could be mute though if the Clomid Challenge comes back with info indicating that H's eggs are a no go. She'll do the challenge next cycle since she was already on CD 11 when we had our consult.
3.14.2007
So, we have our first official face to face consultation with the RE tomorrow morning. I'm a little nervous, but thankful to finally get in the door.
H canceled her first consult in order to get a regular check-up and physical with the PCP first and then had to cancel the next one when the PCP found the lump in her breast. So this is our third attempt. Hopefully it's the charm.
My house is on the market and it looks GREAT! I've told H never to let me buy a house and live in it without fixing it up and decorating it before I sell it or rent it out. It's just not right. Hopefully it sells, it's a very tough market out there right now. Lots of competition with more updates than mine. But.. my house.. it's cute-- real cute.
Hopefully it sells fast and I can stop stressing about having to pay 3 mortgages without the rental income I was getting from that house.
I hope everything goes well tomorrow....
H canceled her first consult in order to get a regular check-up and physical with the PCP first and then had to cancel the next one when the PCP found the lump in her breast. So this is our third attempt. Hopefully it's the charm.
My house is on the market and it looks GREAT! I've told H never to let me buy a house and live in it without fixing it up and decorating it before I sell it or rent it out. It's just not right. Hopefully it sells, it's a very tough market out there right now. Lots of competition with more updates than mine. But.. my house.. it's cute-- real cute.
Hopefully it sells fast and I can stop stressing about having to pay 3 mortgages without the rental income I was getting from that house.
I hope everything goes well tomorrow....
2.23.2007
A home for us...
So, I think H and I have started to formulate a plan. Not about the baby making, but more about our lives as a whole. I mean it's not like we didn't have a plan.. it's just that parts of it were obscured.
These past few months have been trying to say the least. Baby making aside, with everything else the world has thrown our way, it was all we could do to stay above water. Thank god for friends and family to give you the support you need when you need it, whether it's asked for or not.
For the past year we've been talking about remodeling our 1900 bungalow to accommodate our future family. We LOVE our neighborhood and it's proximity to local eats, parks, zoo, and the museum, and everything else urban and hip. Not only the things to do, but the people on our block alone were even more reasons why we loved it. Who wouldn't love a street where at least 3 other homeowners are gay or lesbian and there are a few GLBTQ in the apartments as well. The ethnic and cultural diversity is there as well. It's a great block and a great neighborhood that just keeps going up in appreciation. As far as investment in the long term-- it's a great property with lots of charm and character-- it has much of what you want in an older home, but not so great for a growing family.
So for the past year we've been talking about how we could remodel and add space to our home. Resolve our parking issues and make this a home that we'll stay in for years and years. We would think of something that might work for the living space but then what about the yard, garage ect... Where would the kids play if we expand out and throw a two car garage on our tiny lot. A strip of grass just wouldn't cut it and well you don't always want your kid in the front yard.
We went round and round for a long time never fully committing ourselves to the remodel and thus delaying our start for our family.
This past weekend we made a decision for our future. If all goes well, in the next few months we'll be making some major changes in living, we'll pay down all our debt, and we'll find ourselves in a new location. I can't tell you how excited both of us are. I'm smiling ear to ear right now.
Of course we'll still be in the same general vicinity-- neither of us is willing to give up the charm, beauty, and history of living in an established older neighborhood where all the homes are brick. But at least The little one and our future Biscuit will be able to ride their bike in the street and have a large yard to play in.
These past few months have been trying to say the least. Baby making aside, with everything else the world has thrown our way, it was all we could do to stay above water. Thank god for friends and family to give you the support you need when you need it, whether it's asked for or not.
For the past year we've been talking about remodeling our 1900 bungalow to accommodate our future family. We LOVE our neighborhood and it's proximity to local eats, parks, zoo, and the museum, and everything else urban and hip. Not only the things to do, but the people on our block alone were even more reasons why we loved it. Who wouldn't love a street where at least 3 other homeowners are gay or lesbian and there are a few GLBTQ in the apartments as well. The ethnic and cultural diversity is there as well. It's a great block and a great neighborhood that just keeps going up in appreciation. As far as investment in the long term-- it's a great property with lots of charm and character-- it has much of what you want in an older home, but not so great for a growing family.
So for the past year we've been talking about how we could remodel and add space to our home. Resolve our parking issues and make this a home that we'll stay in for years and years. We would think of something that might work for the living space but then what about the yard, garage ect... Where would the kids play if we expand out and throw a two car garage on our tiny lot. A strip of grass just wouldn't cut it and well you don't always want your kid in the front yard.
We went round and round for a long time never fully committing ourselves to the remodel and thus delaying our start for our family.
This past weekend we made a decision for our future. If all goes well, in the next few months we'll be making some major changes in living, we'll pay down all our debt, and we'll find ourselves in a new location. I can't tell you how excited both of us are. I'm smiling ear to ear right now.
Of course we'll still be in the same general vicinity-- neither of us is willing to give up the charm, beauty, and history of living in an established older neighborhood where all the homes are brick. But at least The little one and our future Biscuit will be able to ride their bike in the street and have a large yard to play in.
2.16.2007
Not much has been going on in the baby making front here. We're sorta in a standstill and not sure of the exact direction to take. Sometimes I do worry that our inaction right now will lead to us not having a kiddo. I try not to obsess... but it's hard not to.
H and recently did a ten day fast in January. That was to be our healthy kick off to 2007. Ten grueling days of "eating" nothing but lemonade and smooth move tea did jump start us to a healthier lifestyle. Especially for H.
We did a ten day fast back in August of last year and that was going really well until we hit the holidays and all that good work was thrown out the window for both of us.
H is working out every morning that we don't have The Little One. She's dedicated. It's more than I can say for myself although I'm eating better, I'm still not exercising. Surfing the web doesn't count unfortunately. Four days a week she wakes up at 5am to go to the gym. I asked her if it had become habit yet and she said she thinks it has.
She's also been going to a physical therapist for her ankles. She has weak ankles it runs in her family. Her ankles have never really healed from all the twists and sprains she's had over the years. She's got good benefits so nipping this problem in the bud now is the best thing. Might as well do it before my company changes it's mind and either decides they're not going to do DP benefits any longer or more likely they don't need me.
We've realized just how lucky we are. After last year's health scare we're thankful for the benefits. I don't know how we would have afforded the tests if we didn't. Even with the deductible that we had last year, it was still only about $350 out of our pockets.
We also realized that making a baby, while it's something that we dream about and that we want for our family... it wasn't more important than our health. We realized during that time that we are so very lucky to have each other and to have the family that we have. Faults and all. It's sometimes hard to remember that especially when things get crazy around here as they tend to do.
The Boy is coming out in March to visit. I'm not sure what we'll do. We haven't done anything on that front yet. Like I said, I'm afraid our inaction will lead to no baby for us... at least not anytime soon.
H and recently did a ten day fast in January. That was to be our healthy kick off to 2007. Ten grueling days of "eating" nothing but lemonade and smooth move tea did jump start us to a healthier lifestyle. Especially for H.
We did a ten day fast back in August of last year and that was going really well until we hit the holidays and all that good work was thrown out the window for both of us.
H is working out every morning that we don't have The Little One. She's dedicated. It's more than I can say for myself although I'm eating better, I'm still not exercising. Surfing the web doesn't count unfortunately. Four days a week she wakes up at 5am to go to the gym. I asked her if it had become habit yet and she said she thinks it has.
She's also been going to a physical therapist for her ankles. She has weak ankles it runs in her family. Her ankles have never really healed from all the twists and sprains she's had over the years. She's got good benefits so nipping this problem in the bud now is the best thing. Might as well do it before my company changes it's mind and either decides they're not going to do DP benefits any longer or more likely they don't need me.
We've realized just how lucky we are. After last year's health scare we're thankful for the benefits. I don't know how we would have afforded the tests if we didn't. Even with the deductible that we had last year, it was still only about $350 out of our pockets.
We also realized that making a baby, while it's something that we dream about and that we want for our family... it wasn't more important than our health. We realized during that time that we are so very lucky to have each other and to have the family that we have. Faults and all. It's sometimes hard to remember that especially when things get crazy around here as they tend to do.
The Boy is coming out in March to visit. I'm not sure what we'll do. We haven't done anything on that front yet. Like I said, I'm afraid our inaction will lead to no baby for us... at least not anytime soon.
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